This year so far has been amazing for me and I’m guessing that never before in my life have I learned so much in such short period of time.
While I’ve been struggling with how to allocate my time and find energy for everything that I want to do, there has always been the question of long-term motivation that I’ve wanted to clarify to myself and others.
Well, so it seems that Owen did all of that for me, explaining exactly what I’ve been feeling about how happiness correlates with staying active and having immense momentum.
Here’s the video titled “The Truth About Motivation 2 – Secret Code To “Long Game” Success Throughout Your Entire Life”:
I highly recommend you to watch the video, but I’ll put some notes here anyways:
1. The shift of perspective from “one big win” to life full of winning
The traditional way of seeing success is to get that “one big win” and the illusion of living life happily ever after.
Instead of expecting the “high point” to satisfy you for the rest of your life, you should rather expect to be in it for the “long-term”, that creates satisfaction based on the process, not the goal.
2. The comfort of that “big success” can (and often will) be devastating
That comfort makes your mind ultimately “disengaged”, screwing yourself over and making that short-term “success” ultimately a long-term failure that brings you down.
You basically fall into your new comfort-zone, which eventually becomes your prison as you don’t feel the need to become engaged by going outside that comfort-zone.
3. If you lose momentum, you are done.
I’ve been writing about momentum and this strengthens my own resolve not to fall off the wagon as it will be devastating.
Funny enough, I was really close to falling off just last week when I took time off to enjoy something and I stopped exercising, writing and doing my usual stuff daily.
And that was for less than a week – if I’d been gone for month or two, I’m certain that I’d be screwed.
Here’s the “Narrow road of success” video that he’s talking about and it’s definitely worth watching.
4. The less you push yourself, the less engaged you become
One of the high points of this video is how what most men think as the pinnacle of human existence (cash and vagina) really isn’t the pinnacle, but the degree of how engaged you are in life.
I’ve seen this in my own life and I have to agree: I’ve been the happiest when I’ve engaged myself to the fullest. Cash and vagina had very little to do with that.
“Unfortunately” it means that I have to push myself outside my comfort-zone and do unpleasant things to achieve that fulfillment.
5. Don’t seek relaxation as a lifestyle, but rather as reward
Work hard, play hard, that’s the only way to play it.
Once you set into that relaxed lifestyle, it may initially feel great, but on the long-term(!) it will eat you up inside because you forget what it’s like to be engaged in your daily life.
The active life is the narrow road and straying away from that is losing momentum (getting immersed in relaxed lifestyle) and forgetting to get back on the path that really makes you feel great.
6. (point 3. again) If you fuck up, you may never come back
This needs to be repeated.
This is the mindset that Owen is suggesting you to implement and I fully agree because I’ve almost made that mistake.
The further you stray away from that path, the harder it is to come back.
7. You are the biggest threat to your own dreams/happiness
You should be painfully aware of this.
Once you stop earning your relaxed periods, you are threatening your long-term wellbeingness.
8. The secret to long-term motivation is to find how to engage yourself
He talks about expanding on his own passion and putting yourself in situations that triggers that motivation.
The task for finding that passion is different for everyone.
At the last minutes he comes back to the journey and that initial success, how it can in fact be failure on the long-term.
So instead of starting to “finally relax” with that success, you should think more about the whole journey since you’ve probably got more years ahead of you where you want to be happy.
It’s “1 win” compared to “lifetime of winning”