This particular metaphor is as old as hell, but while I was showering I took it a step further:
You could say that you are dealt a new hand in every single situation that you encounter. In poker, there’s really not a “right way” or a “wrong way” to play a hand, but a “better way” and a “worse way”. It’s a game of incomplete information.
It’s the same with life. Every single sitation you are dealt a hand and it’s up to you how you play it. You can try to bluff with a bad hand or if you are dealt a good hand, you can make the best of it in the showdown.
There are no black and white situations: dynamics between everyone you encounter are inherently different. Sometimes you end up in a setup where based on your decision you may either lose a lot of money or a small amount of money.
Sometimes it’s a good idea to fold. You can see this from a perspective of getting into a fight. Either you or the other guy has a better hand, but instead of pushing all-in, you should really consider a fold.
In poker, players get better when they analyze the plays that they make and always aim to strive to be better.
Some people don’t. They blame outer conditions that don’t have anything to do with the game played.
They don’t get much better, because they don’t understand the nature of the game. They have a “system” that they play out, that has a black & white answer to everything. It’s the inability to adapt.
The good thing is that in real life, instead of money, you are sacrificing the risk of being uncomfortable. If you don’t learn from that, you’ll be the fish in life.